When Kevin and I first met, we obviously used protection, and continued to do so throughout the summer. However, as our relationship developed, I felt that I should bring up the reason why I wasn't proposing for us to set aside the type of protection which committed people usually don't use. Also, I knew that most men prefer to have intercourse without it, and some, in fact, insist on not using it. Kevin had never mentioned it, and I figured that he had either settled into using them, or was being considerate of me. So, I wanted to let him know that although I yearned to take this step toward further intimacy, I was depriving him of the experience not because I didn't trust his commitment to me, but because I didn't want to pass on warts to him. If he wanted a condom free experience, I was all for it, but it would be risky. I felt the choice should be his. I wrote him about it, and waited anxiously for his response. Kevin was wearing condoms as contraception, and hadn't given them much thought beyond that.
Thu, Sep 6, 2012 at 12:38 PM
From: Claudia Bonn@
XXXX.XXX
To:
K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX
I
know that could be an issue, but you've been fine with a condom this whole
time. Although, I understand that it's better without. I wouldn't count on a
condom for birth control though. It's only about 70% effective because the most
microscopic hole can let in sperm. I haven't used birth control in several
years. Getting pregnant in your early forties without help and stuff isn't really that probable
The ending of this email hasn't survived from that day.
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Thu, Sep 6, 2012 at 2:55 PM
From: K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX
To: Claudia Bonn@
XXXXX.XXX
Early-forties? I thought you were early 30's! Holy crap, you are super-hot!
The
last time I had sex with someone other than my wife was 1985. AIDS was called GRID. I have never exhibited any symptoms of any
STDs.
I
think we should both use birth control.
Whether you do is your choice. I
wouldn't be comfortable without it for me.
Nobody gets hurt that way. Is the
experience different for you if I wear a condom? It isn't really for me, other than the
interruption.
Speaking
for myself, we are committed to each other.
I am madly in love with you.
However, we are also committed to others. I am not ready to concede that commitment.
When
you mentioned getting closer, did you mean not using latex? Or just sharing this information?
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Thu, Sep 6, 2012 at 3:29 PM
From: Claudia Bonn@
XXXX.XXX
To:
K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX
You
know, you have this really irritating girlfriend who can never leave good
enough alone, oh no, she's got to have 100% of everything. When I said, closer
I meant using no latex. If we use latex, sharing the information would be
pretty irrelevant. It doesn't make any difference to me in terms of feeling; I
was worried that it makes a difference to you. Of course, we aren't ready to
concede our commitment to our spouses. You have your reasons, and I have the
children. I checked out websites again,
and it turns out that condoms are a lot more effective in preventing pregnancy
than they used to tell us some years back, maybe the manufacturing has improved
or now they use spermicides. So, that's fine, but if you'd like me to use a
diaphragm too on the off chance, I can.
I'm
in love with you too. More than you will ever know.
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Thu, Sep 6, 2012 at 4:02 PM
From:
K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX
To: Claudia Bonn@
XXXXX.XXX
I
want to fuck you right now.
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Thu, Sep 6, 2012 at 8:21 PM
From: Claudia Bonn@
XXXX.XXX
To:
K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX
Hey
u:
I'm
on the bus going home from massage so I'm typing on the tiny screen. I'm all thumbs :)
I
hope ur mom got in safe and sound. Did u pick her up at the airport or did she
catch a cab since she used to live here?
I
thought on Tuesday, wherever u decide we should meet, we should drink shots of
tequila. I can probably do three but
after that u'd have to find me under the table. And after all those shots God
only knows what I would be doing! We should chase it down with something like
beer.
Xxxxxxxoooooo
HFG
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Thu, Sep 6, 2012 at 9:44 PM
From:
K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX
To: Claudia Bonn@
XXXXX.XXX
Hey
HFG,
I
don't know about 3, but we will see. I
like tequila. I will find a good place
for that.
My
mom is here, safe and sound. She takes
the bus to Grand Central and I met her there.
We take the subway home together.
I
can't spend much time on the computer.
Have a great night. Love you.
SYB
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Thu, Sep 6, 2012 at 11:43 PM
From: Claudia Bonn@
XXXX.XXX
To:
K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX
Well,
three is my limit, we could do less.
Does
your mom take the bus to Grand Central from the airport or from Minneapolis? Is
that a stupid question? That was sweet of you to meet her at the station. If
it's hard for her to get around and she tires easily, why didn't you guys take
a cab?
I
hope you're having fun. Good-night. I love you SYB!
HFG.
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