Almost four years ago, I fell in love for the first time--twenty-five years too late--and began an affair. Over the years, Kevin and I have met several times a week and email several times a day. I have kept almost all of the emails that I sent to him and that he sent to me. Along the way, there has been laughter and tenderness and heat...and heartache.

This blog is the posting of our daily emails. It chronicles the lives of two people over a four year period so far, and tells the story of our burgeoning love against the backdrop of New York City.

The names and addresses have been changed to protect the innocent; the rest is 100% real.

The daily update structure helps keep the blog as authentic as possible as well as living up to its title. It also strives to provide the reader with the kind of pleasure that a soap opera offers--a daily dose of voyeuristic fun.

Please begin at the beginning, otherwise, little will make sense.

Enjoy.




Thursday, November 13, 2014

Mistress or Girlfriend?

Thu, Jun 7, 2012 at 8:29 AM

From: K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX
To: Claudia Bonn@ XXXXX.XXX

Good morning:

How are you today? You must have had an interesting evening. I hope it all went well.

I have a busy morning, but my afternoon should be mellow. We are rehearsing tonight. The last rehearsal before the first gig is always tense. Musicians are very nervous people. The guitar player in our band is neurotic. He is going to be a mess. I will have to smoke a lot before I go. I hope I have enough time between work and rehearsal.

What are you up to? It looks like a nice day.

XOXOXO

Me
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Thu, Jun 7, 2012 at 11:21 AM

From: Claudia Bonn@ XXXXX.XXX
To: K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX

Good morning!

Yes, it’s a lovely day, one of the first. I was able to sit outside on the deck for a few minutes, before I remembered that the kids must be picked up from their sleep overs, then Isabela has tennis, then both to Manhattan for their orthodontist appointments. So, no mellow afternoon for me. Last night was interesting. They ran into some actor from this show called Victorious that I had never seen, so they were all squealing, even the boys, and posing for photos with the poor man. Adults never do that in NY. They ate pizza and burgers and all kinds of chocolate desserts (that’s a big chocolate place, like the Hard Rock Cafe of chocolate) then saw MIB in 3D no less, and got giant syringes filled with chocolate for party favors, what was there not to like?!! Nadia had a great time. I was exhausted!!!

So, you smoke every night, right? So do I. I smoke one j. The filter is one of those slender kinds, if I have a cigarette size one, I usually rip it in two, and only use half the filter, otherwise, I’d have a Cheech and Chong kind of a j. So, we should try some of each other’s. How much do you smoke in one night?

I’m sure the guitar player isn’t as neurotic as you make him out to be, and he’ll do just fine, and most importantly will have fun! I couldn’t ever smoke and do that. I would be paranoid as hell. In college, I used to go out after smoking, sometimes it was fun, sometimes it wasn’t, but nowadays it’s a private thing for me.

I’m still very upset about the article on the school. It used to be that I was so proud of saying my kids go there; now it’s like ouch! We get one of these every year. A couple of years ago, some teenager had sexted some other teenager and the kid got it on his record, so the affluent parents sued the school, and it was in the news. A few years before, some English teacher wrote a horrible yet juicy novel based on the school. He was fired. Although a lot of educators protested his right to free speech, but he was fired anyway. Then in the fall, it was some assholes making misogynist and racist remarks at the high school assembly after some women poets read this caustic poem about men. And it always ends up in the Times, usually in the Metro or Region section, but this time it’s the cover of the magazine. It’s so embarrassing. My nephew sent my brother the link to the article, saying isn’t this where Isabela and Nadia go? And my brother is like, “and still do.”

XO

Moi
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Thu, Jun 7, 2012 at 12:15 PM

From: K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX
To: Claudia Bonn@ XXXXX.XXX

 
Hello Gorgeous:

Today sounds like a continuation of yesterday for you. It sounds like they had a lot of fun. I looked up Victorious on Yahoo. It is one of our shows. I am glad to hear they love it. I have often wanted a syringe full of chocolate, or maybe coke (coca cola). A syringe full of Roya would be nice though. That way I could have a dose whenever I wanted.

I smoke every night. I am not really sure how much because I use a pipe. It varies. I imagine it to be a fairly large j’s worth. I usually buy the lower grade stuff because I will smoke the same amount no matter what. It probably comes from Mexico. It is usually a private thing for me. I worry about my eyes, which are red most of the time anyway because my light colored eyes are very sensitive. I smoke to relax, the noids are counterproductive.

Don’t worry about the publicity for the school. If they are getting a good education nobody will care where it came from. Better a good education from an infamous school than a bad education from an unknown.

I was so surprised to see a message from AM. I haven’t gotten one in weeks. I like looking at your photos on AM. The bikini shot is the only one I can identify as you although the one of your back and hip with your gorgeous hair is my favorite. I turned off the notification, etc. a while ago. I think I just took down my profile after I read your message. I sure don’t need it. Let me know if you can still see it. Any chance you could send me the bikini shot?

It never occurred to me that I would find a woman like you here. I would have the hots for you wherever we met. You can’t really doubt how hard I have fallen for you. There can be only one, and you are the one. I am crazy about you. I can honestly say I don’t even look at other women anymore. I want to save all of my energy for you.

So does this make you my girlfriend?

 Me
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Thu, Jun 7, 2012 at 12:53 PM

From: Claudia Bonn@ XXXXX.XXX
To: K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX

I guess it does make me your girlfriend : ) Or your mistress. That one has an old-fashioned elicit ring to it, doesn’t it? You say you’re neurotic and insecure? Say hi to your twin : ) I can’t wait to share our stuff. So, you will attempt rolling a j? What’s a noid?

I hid my profile. Honestly, I get tired of going in there to do housekeeping. It’s not like it used to be at the beginning, but they still pile up, and now that my attention is completely on you, everyone just feels blah. So, it ends up being more like work. Very good reply on that profile viewing thing btw. Even if it isn’t true, lots of points for you for being super smart : )

Can you believe these people? They give you an option to completely delete the profile for $20! Like I’m going to give them my cc number. Otherwise, it’s hidden permanently, but the people you’ve corresponded with still have access to your info. So, you and I may still have access to each other.

I guess some people give each other rings, pins or sweaters to wear, we hide our profiles. What a 21st century act of exclusivity, too funny : )!

I’m sending you the photo, although for the life of me I don’t know why you would want it. Also, my face looks like a mouse in it. Enjoy the sun, and have a good rehearsal.

 XO

R.
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Thu, Jun 7, 2012 at 2:19 PM

From: K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX
To: Claudia Bonn@ XXXXX.XXX

I prefer girlfriend. It sounds like a closer bond. A mistress makes me think of a relationship based just on sex. I came looking for a girlfriend but expected to find a mistress. Fortunately, I found you. I am a lucky guy.

I may just bring some with me for you to roll. I can roll using a dollar bill. I don’t do it often. I would hate to be compared to a master like you.

Thanks for the picture. I love your beautiful face! I wish I was kissing you right now. As for it being mousy, I don’t tolerate people talking shit about my girlfriend.

I am glad to be part of the 21th century. We are pioneers! I was wondering how they make money off of women. I had to pay to contract you. I have a huge non-refundable credit. Best money I ever lost. I wonder if I can delete mine? I didn’t even see an option.

It is bad luck to wish me a good rehearsal or performance. In fact, I hope luck has nothing to do with it. Preparation is key. I think we will all be prepared.

The “noids” is paranoia caused by smoking. I actually think it is related to a substance in the pot. Some varieties cause them more than others. I am not sure how late I will be out, or up tonight. I will check in. Maybe we can chat.

Next week is going to be great. We have to talk a little more about Thursday. I have not booked a hotel room yet. I can’t figure out how to find a hotel with a tub for two. The only one I can be sure of is a love hotel which is in some ways appropriate, but probably not up to our standards of comfort. Plus, it should be near the restaurant we choose unless we plan on having room service. What do you think?

Your boyfriend,

Me
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Thu, Jun 7, 2012 at 3:51 PM

From: K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX
To: Claudia Bonn@ XXXXX.XXX

Check out The Kimberly Hotel.
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Thu, Jun 7, 2012 at 6:14 PM

 From: Claudia Bonn@ XXXXX.XXX
To: K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX

I prefer girlfriend. It sound like a closer bond. A mistress make me think of a relationship based just on sex. I came looking for a girlfriend but expected to find a mistress. Fortunately, I found you. I am a lucky guy.
A mistress also makes me think that you should set me up in an apartment where I always wait for you in my negligee, filing my nails, and cry when you won’t spend Christmas with me.

I may just bring some with me for you to roll. I can roll using a dollar bill. I don’t do it often. I would hate to be compared to a master like you.
OK, bring some loose and I will roll it for you, but I’m no master, so don’t you dare laugh at me! You seriously smoke in a dollar bill? That’s completely insane. Not only one can find a better use for a dollar bill than to go up in flames, but it’s too thick and unyielding. Or do you use the bill to help roll it, or you just putting me on?

I am glad to be part of the 21th century. We are pioneers! I was wondering how they make money off of women. I had to pay to contract you. I have a huge non-refundable credit. Best money I ever lost. I wonder if I can delete mine?
I didn’t even see an option. I’m so freaked out by how I didn’t even think that they have to make money. I’m such a dunce! They have no ads, or nearly none, they don’t charge one to subscribe. Do they charge men like on conventional dating sites? But what I don’t like is that they don’t charge you to join which could deter a lot of women but charge to let you get out, working on anxiety or fear. I don’t know which one is worse, leaving it hidden but not gone, or paying the $20? I wonder if I can send them a money order from the post office? You can find the delete option under profile, it’s an option in edit profile. How much do they charge to let you see a profile? Do they charge more for those with pics? I feel very odd, like I’m bait by virtue of my gender, also I feel badly for all those guys who I didn’t write back, but it’s also kind of fun I suppose. It’s like ladies night at the pub.

It is bad luck to wish me a good rehearsal of performance. In fact, I hope luck has nothing to do with it. Preparation is key. I think we will all be prepared.
Did I say luck? Shame on me. I thought I said, have a good one. I guess that’s good wishes being sent along, yes. OK then, break a leg? I always found that very gruesome. I wonder what the origin is. Is that how the under study hopes? You strike me as a person who is most often than not prepared, and who only participates in team endeavors where others also care about their work and reputation. So, I’m sure you’ll be prepared enough to have fun.

The “noids” is paranoia caused by smoking. I actually think it is related to a substance in the pot. Some varieties cause the more than others.
I’m as clueless about pot as about music. I just like it, but the strains and grades are beyond me. Although, I can tell strength. If it makes me stoned, I have no problem. So, for all we know mine might be a lot worse than yours

Next week is going to be great. We have to talk a little more about Thursday. I have not booked  hotel room yet. I can’t figure out how to find a hotel with a tub for two. The only one I can be sure of it a love hotel which is in some ways appropriate, but probably not up to our standards of comfort. Plus, it should be near the restaurant we choose unless we plan on having room service. What do you think?
I don’t want a love hotel, and you’ll drive yourself nuts looking for a place with tubs for two. We can fit into a tub for one. We’ll sit facing each other. In Europe, it’s great; they are really into baths, so the tub is always separate and designed for bathing. In American hotels, the tubs are just sad unless it’s a really nice place. I don’t know about room service. Unless the hotel is really refined, the food is not always great. And we can always order room service for dessert or post dessert. So, let’s go to a restaurant nearby the hotel. I’ll look at the Kimberly.

My newly minted shiny boyfriend. That sounds so sweet—boyfriend…xoxo Moi

PS

I’ll check around 10 or so to see if you’re around.
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Thu, Jun 7, 2012 at 6:26 PM

From: Claudia Bonn@ XXXXX.XXX
To: K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX

I think it’s a really nice hotel, but it’s a little too modern isn’t it? Not the rooms, but the exterior. It doesn’t make me think, oh wow like the Moroccan restaurant or the Gaslight, but it is certainly beautiful. As long as you like it, it’s fine with me; we can also try the Waldorf. I’m not sure which one is a better deal, or something completely different. Wow, so many choices…if you’re too tired of looking, don’t even worry about it : ) it’s not the room, it’s the people.

Thu, Jun 7, 2012 at 10:34 PM

From: K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX
To: Claudia Bonn@ XXXXX.XXX

I use the bill to roll it. I don’t smoke the bill.

I will look a little more at hotels and restaurants. We can talk about options tomorrow.

Are you around?
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Thu, Jun 7, 2012 at 10:36 PM

From: K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX
To: Claudia Bonn@ XXXXX.XXX

"These messages were sent while you were offline."

 10:38 PM   Kevin: Hello.

11:03 PM   Kevin: I am sorry. I need to sleep. Sweet dreams girlfriend.
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Thu, Jun 7, 2012 at 11:08 PM

From: Claudia Bonn@ XXXXX.XXX
To: K<dancing.midnight@XXXXX.XXX

You got back earlier than I thought. Sorry I missed you. Thank God you don’t smoke the bill : ), but I have to see how you roll with the help of one. That should be very interesting. I don’t think the Waldorf is good. It’s where I’ve always stayed when I’ve stayed in a hotel in NY, because my father used to stay there, most diplomats do, but it’s too old now, and the tubs are awful. You’re right, newer built might be better.

Goodnight, sweet : ).

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